Is it bad to go and check up on your partners e-mail, my space or personal things

I'm one of those persons who thinks you should respect your partner & there property but what happens when you get married is all boundries lost.

I remember passwords so easy but I never used them to check up on things until... Things started going down hill in the trust department. He would accuse me of cheating by checking phone statement calling every number that was not familier, checking e-mails & other accounts and my drawers my pursue. It was so extreme I had to put a stop to it by getting even and doing the same to him he sweard he had nothing to hide.

It was true for a while then I found out he was talking to other girls thru e-mail. I confronted him said he has never meet them and was not planning to. Then he got upset and wanted to leave me I said go ahead i'm not going to be played like a fool. (Never left) but now a year later just out of curiosity I checked his account and he was chating w/someone(not sure if girl or guy) Should I be alarmed or let it go?

He seems like a liar and obviosly like someone who's hiding something. Confront him about it. And you are right you shouldnt let him play you like a fool.

Are the girls he talks to from Venus? Maybe that book title was literal, because I'm trying to figure out why this is in the A&S section, lol.
But yeah, not good to be in a relationship lacking trust. So stop looking, you'll feel better.

Wrong category buddy.

yes.. its vervy very bad...

but this is not science...

you might want to post this under relationships page..!!

Yes, it is. Reading someone else's email without his permission is a serious violation of his privacy. It is also illegal in some places.

The fact that he did it to you doesn't make it okay. The proper response to his violating your privacy was not to violate his in return.

Obviously your relationship has some problems that you need to work out in a mature way. "Getting even" is never a mature response to a problem.

He's a cheater. You're going to have to admit that fact and get rid of him. You likely won't though as you love him more than he loves you. You'll argue with him about it, he'll get mad. He'll say you're invading his privacy and deny the accusation then end up leaving you. You're reading this right now saying "but things with me and him are different". No, they're not. Your relationship is already over. You just haven't accepted it yet.