Nothing ever ends up going well on my birthday, April 22nd, I could swear there's a bad omen on it or something. I always end up really depressed and reason why?
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It could be a case of unrealistic expectations and self-fulfilling prophesy. We expect our special days to go perfectly, or at least to "out-shine" the "ordinary" days. Then, when what "should have been" a special day turns out to be "ordinary", it seems harsher. An example would be a wedding day. It'll only happen once (at least, the FIRST wedding!) in a lifetime. Talk about pressure. And TV reality shows are replete with bridal breakdowns when the day isn't going smoothly. More emotionally resilient brides (and families) would take it all in stride, and find the humour in the situation. Perhaps the MOST resilient actually try to build in some humour in the wedding planning, to break the stress. Can you take a cue from them, and change how you look at your birthday? It IS really just another day. Celebrate YOURSELF, yourself, and don't expect too much of others. Write down 10 things you like about yourself. TEN. No matter how silly or inconsequential some may be. Even something like, "My toes are pretty." (actually, the sillier the affirmations are, the better they are at cheering you up--laughing releases endorphins that help your mood!)
The disappointing things that happen are opportunities for you to learn to "reframe". One thing I find helpful to do when I am disappointed is to "milk it". I exagerate the stressor so much that it distorts and becomes really pretty comical. I end up laughing about how silly the whole thing is, even the initial disappointment. Sometimes, though, the best thing to do is ask, "What's the worst that can happen?", "Will it matter five years from now?", "Will I even still remember this, then?" Probably not. And if it IS something that WILL matter, it will probably be something you've learned a very valuable lesson from. So, it really is "all good"--just in how you look at things.
The disappointing things that happen are opportunities for you to learn to "reframe". One thing I find helpful to do when I am disappointed is to "milk it". I exagerate the stressor so much that it distorts and becomes really pretty comical. I end up laughing about how silly the whole thing is, even the initial disappointment. Sometimes, though, the best thing to do is ask, "What's the worst that can happen?", "Will it matter five years from now?", "Will I even still remember this, then?" Probably not. And if it IS something that WILL matter, it will probably be something you've learned a very valuable lesson from. So, it really is "all good"--just in how you look at things.
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Well its not just you mine have always been strange too. Like I'm not myself, having an off day, and nothing goes my way along with crap not turning out right either. Its not just you I know plenty of others that have the same crap on their bdays too. I don't think it an omen though
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Happy birthday! You need to have a better attitude about your bday. If you're always "knowing" it going to be bad, then you're only expecting bad, screwing up your big day. Now, chin up, put on a smile, happy attitude, and have yourself the best bday!